Viaan is almost 18 months old and this reminds me how drastically my life and my outlook towards life has changed. Yes, motherhood has changed me a lot. I am sure that most of the mothers out there will agree with me! Not only have I changed in last one and a half year, I have learnt a lot from motherhood and here are things that I have learned about myself
1. I have more respect and love for my mother
I am not religious but I believe in one god, that’s my MOTHER. We share a normal mother and daughter relationship – she used to sing lullabies for me, dance for me, scold me to study well and she became my friend when I turned a teenager (till date I share everything with her). I am well aware of all that she had done for our family and I love her and respect her for that.
But when I was pregnant, gave birth to Viaan and now raising him, I can’t help but think about everything that my mother went through to give birth to me and raise me. In my opinion, only a woman who has gone through it can understand another woman.
Previously I used to get annoyed at my mom for getting worried about me but now, I get it, I totally get it!
All I have to say is, I love and respect my mother more than anything or anyone else in the entire world.
2. I have hidden patience in me
If you ask any one that knows me – Dinesh and my parents, they will tell you that patience is not one of my virtues. I am more impatient than an average person, however after having Viaan I have discovered that I have so much patience that I never knew I had. Dinesh would probably disagree as I am still impatient towards him sometimes 😉 but with Viaan I have it in abundance. I have never ever felt irritated or impatient with him. He is growing up into a naughty little boy, so we will see how it goes!
3. I have abundant energy
Previously I used to be so tired after coming back from work. Most of the days we used to survive on takeaways as we used to think that cooking is an extra chore for us tired people. Weekends were about getting up at 10-11am. Now it’s changed, something has really changed in my head, I don’t feel tired after coming back from work, I straight away jump into cooking something healthy for us whereas Dinesh feeds Viaan, bathes him and puts him to bed. I have a lot of energy now (with little help from Floradix)
4. It’s ok to not be perfect!
I won’t call myself a perfectionist, I am definitely not one. However there are few areas in my life that I want to feel/look perfect. Some examples – I like my house to be tidy all the time, everything has a designated place and it should always be there. I have a pet peeve about chipped nails, I dislike kitchen sink full of dirty dishes, I like my wardrobe to look perfect, washed clothes folded immediately. Well, these days nothing is happening as I want. My living room is full of rainbow coloured toys, my nail polish gets chipped towards the end of the week as I don’t get enough time to do them mid week, I sometimes don’t fold the clothes for almost a week. Initially, all these things used to annoy me a lot and I used to get anxious but now I tell myself that I work full time in the city and I am trying to be a good mom to Viaan by spending a lot of time with him and cooking healthy meals for him. So I can’t really do everything and it’s ok to not be perfect all that time. It took me a bit of time to accept the fact but once I learnt it I feel so much better and less stressed out.
5. I love cooking
Many people messaged me before and asked me several times to do a video on what I cook, to share recipes etc. To be honest, I used to hate cooking, so much so that I used to find it stressful to invite friends over to my home. It didn’t stop me from inviting anyone over ! After I had Viaan, something changed in me and I started cooking for Viaan. Even though I am a huge fan of junk food, I want to protect him from it as much as possible so I have made it my mission to cook everything for him from scratch and I have been successful so far.
I have been enjoying the process so I have started cooking for us as well. I am not sure how it tastes, Dinesh always says it tastes good but I don’t believe him!
These are my five main learnings from motherhood. If you are a mother, tell me what you have learnt from it. It would be really interesting to hear your stories 🙂
Photos: Dinesh Reddy