How to be happy? This is a question that we all want answered but it’s a simple question with not- so- simple answer. By now we all know that money is not the answer. There are many of us who think that if we earn a little more money, it will make us happy. Ask a rich person if he is happy with all the money he has, his answer will be a big fat NO! Even researchers have proven that money can only make us happy up to a certain extent, after a point money doesn’t add to happiness.
There used to be a time when I thought that more money will make me happy or having that ‘it’ bag will make me happy but with different life experiences, my opinion has now changed.
Here are the things that make me happy:
Expectations lead to disappointments, which in turn lead to unhappiness. Don’t expect anything from anybody- Your parents, your husband, your wife, your friends or your children. If you want someone to do something for you, just ask them. People won’t know what’s in your mind unless you let them know. If we don’t tell our loved ones what we want, they will never know and we’ll keep killing ourselves with expectation.
I am telling you this from experience. I used to expect from people a lot (especially from closed ones) and when the things didn’t happen the way I expected, I used to feel disappointed. Very. Very. Disappointed. I used to think, if they love me so much then why don’t they do what I am expecting. But how will they know what I want? Slowly and steadily, over the years I have learnt that I was wrong. I have stopped expecting anything from people.
Stop expecting and when they do something for you out of no where, it’s going to genuinely make you happy.
So do yourself and your loved ones a favour and stop expecting from them. Take away the pressure of your expectations from your loved ones.
Eventually this will make you happy and people around you stress free.
This is said again and again, comparing yourself to others is a big no-no. Especially in this social media generation when everyone puts their best out there on social media, which increases insecurity in many of us. We don’t know what’s going on in someones life or what they went through in the past. So it’s better if we don’t compare ourselves to other. It’s better to compare ourselves to our past and try to be a better version. That’s what I try to do! Now I really don’t care about how beautiful a person is, how rich someone is, how happy a couple look, how many holidays someone goes on etc. NOPE, it doesn’t really bother me.
I feel grateful to my life- I try to remember that I am healthy, my family is healthy, I have food to eat and live in a safe country.
We all know THAT one person who can’t stop being negative about everyone and every situation. STAY AWAY FROM THAT PERSON. If a person is talking behind another person’s back, remember that they are going to talk behind your back too. Yes, it’s sometimes fun to indulge in gossip but in long run, it messes up with our mind and ultimately results in unhappiness. So stay away from negativity and gossip.
Sometimes we tend to take our relationships for granted, we all make this mistake. However, we shouldn’t forget to tell our loved ones everyday that we love and value them. Make sure to spend some technology free time with your family. Just chatting on WhatsApp is not enough, make some time to meet with your friends and spend some quality time. That’s why I never vlog when I am with my friends, it distracts me from spending good time with them.
I always feel better after playing with my son, spending quality time with my hubby, and after coffees and conversations with my friends. I feel happy from within and satisfied with my life.
My dad always taught me, help someone in need, without expecting anything in return. I try to do this when ever possible. It doesn’t have to be a big deal, just try to do small things that make a difference. While travelling by tube, I try to offer my seat to someone who needs it more than I do, I try to help a mother with pram to carry it up the stairs, try to teach a colleague about Business Analysis who wants to change their career. All these are small things but make a huge difference to me. When I help someone, it fills me with happiness.
These are all the things that make me happy, what makes you happy?
This check blazer is a huge trend this season, every designer and every high street shop has a version of this. It adds a formal touch to the outfit, so to dress it down a bit I paired it with a straight fit jeans and trainers. This outfit makes me feel like an epitome of Parisian chic.